Outsmart Chaos 098: Fight Your Fight
Finding Solid Ground in Life and Leadership
When you fight your fight, you stand on solid ground.
When you fight someone else’s, you risk losing your footing entirely.
Why This Matters
Chaos throws distractions.
It invites you into battles that aren’t yours:
→ Defending someone else’s opinion
→ Proving worth on someone else’s terms
→ Fighting to win a game you never chose
→ Living the values of your company instead of your own.
When you enter someone else’s fight, you inherit their terrain.
You don’t know the traps.
You don’t know the rules.
You don’t even know what winning looks like.
And that’s where you lose.
Not because you’re weak—but because you’re off course.
Fighting Your Fight Brings Clarity
I’m early in my Jiu-Jitsu journey…a white belt with only a few months of practice. What I’ve learned more than anything is the tendency to panic.
And why the panic?
I’m trying to defend against the attacks of my training partners. They know the moves and are confident in their practice. I’m learning the basic moves and quickly transitioning from the move that we’re training into a survival mechanism so I don’t lose.
The greatest lesson I’ve learned thus far is the importance of committing to my fight, not defending against someone else’s.
Jiu-Jitsu has reminded me of this life lesson.
Your fight—the one you’re meant to fight—is different than defense.
→ You know your why
→ You see your path
→ You trust your steps
That clarity grounds you. It sharpens you.
It allows you to stop reacting—and start advancing.
Know the Terrain
Every fight has ground.
And the more familiar the ground, the better your footing.
Your fight is the one aligned with your values, your calling, your vision.
It’s the challenge that wakes you up.
The struggle that grows you.
It may not be easy, but it’s yours.
Step onto someone else’s battlefield, and you forfeit your advantage:
→ You start reacting.
→ You start doubting.
→ You start shrinking.
Fighting your fight isn’t about being selfish. It’s about being strategic.
The Power of Focus
Focus is a weapon.
Your clarity becomes sharp when you stop scattering your strength across other people’s priorities.
You move faster.
Decide better.
Lead stronger.
You don’t need every battle.
You need the right one.
How to Build It
Strength
→ Define Your Fight: What battle are you meant to fight now? Name it.
→ Anchor to Purpose: Remind yourself daily why it matters.
→ Eliminate the Noise: Say no to distractions that dilute your strength.
Unyielding Determination
→ Own the Ground: Step boldly into your territory—don’t retreat.
→ Fight Smart: Use strategy, not just effort.
→ Finish Strong: Follow through, even when it gets hard.
Chaos Challenge
Where are you fighting a battle that isn’t yours?
This week—step off someone else’s field.
Return to your fight.
Name it. Focus on it. Win it.
Onward
Your strength doesn’t come from swinging at everything.
It comes from knowing which battle matters most—and fighting it well.
When I read this I ponder the difference between self-empowering and selfishness. It can be a fine line. Yes, we need to be on our own battlefield, but don't we also need to be attentive and responsive to the battles around us? Does this allow us to maintain our own peace while being available to assist others by being supportive and empathetic? Yes, chaos does truly occur as we lose track of our own battles in exchange for aiding others. Yet, I believe we should, in our strength, be available to offer a supportive hand towards others, while maintaining health boundaries so we don't sacrifice ourselves, our identity, in the process. What did you think?